Matriculation of my father Ahsan Hyder: From L-R: Sitting: Syed Ikram Hyder(great-grandfather), Syed Ab Ghani Hyder (grandfather) Standing: Sultan Hyder (Rummi)-Rasheed Hyder- Ahsan Hyder-Zaheer Hyder-Jarrar Hyder |
Prof Dr Zaeem Jaffery of LUMS, who left this world a few years ago, surprised me when he told me in 2000-01 that his father (Syed Hasan Jaffery) passed away six years earlier, and not a day passes when he does not remember him. I could not comprehend the enormity of this till I lost my father (Ahsan Hyder) in 2003.
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I recall him at odd moments in ordinary daily events which bring flashes in my mind of his personality his likes, dislikes, the way he will stand, will wear clothes, will look, will sit, and other small actions. For instance, when someone picks up the tea cup will remind me of how he would pick that up; when someone tilts and swings the chair will remind me how he would stop us from doing that, when someone will be praying will remind me of how he used to stand up, when I polish my shoes will remind me of the lesson in polishing excellence that he gave, when I comb the hair of my youngest will remind me of how he used to hold my face and would comb my hair, when I put on the tie will remind me of how he taught me, when someone after ironing will not take the plug out from the socket will remind me of the precaution that he mentioned, when someone will leave the lights/fans on and no one is in the room will remind me of his lessons in conservation, and on and on.
May Allah give the departed souls of such role models, the highest of abodes in the hereafter.
Lives of great men all remind us
We can make our lives sublime,
And, departing, leave behind us
Footprints on the sands of time ; — A Psalm of Life by Henry W. Longfellow (1807-1882)
Here I list some of my posts that describe the role models and their guidance:
Guidance by my late mother:
- Secret of Happiness: One Simple Rule
- How exploration of nature and role playing was encouraged: Of Jungles, Streams, Berries and Wild Pink Flowers — Fragrant Memories of Islamabad that Was: Remembering the learning by doing environment enabled by our parents.
- How to Build Confidence in Children: Climbing the Trees and Getting out of a Hole
- How I learned the Craft of Book Binding
- Edhi, Old Home and our Bari Bi
- Connection with Arabic through Quran Reading from “mushaf” in Taraveeh
- How was I guided: How to find a “buzurg” and “wali” of Allah
- How to make people feel special and close: Rauf Mamoo
- How to Sprinkle Happiness Around You: Javed Bhai (Dr Zaeem Jafri) – A Jolly Good Fellow
- Sardar Mamoo – Reliance and Tawakal on Allah- Life is to give and not to take
- Ansari Sb: Khawajgan Chisht Ahle Bahisht
- Beauty is our Business: The Great Dijkstra and Mathematics
- Fairness in Grading: A Lesson by the Great Dijkstra
Family – Life
- Role Model of Forthrightness, Calm and Resourcefulness: Daud Khaloo
- Sardar Mamoo – Reliance and Tawakal on Allah
- Smoking and Childhood
- Recollection of an Unforgettable Recitation of Majaz’s Nazr-e-Aligarh
- Ethical Standards for writing Recommendation Letter: A Deputy Commissioner’s refusal in 1943
- Family Tree of Sadat e Nehtaur: A Case Study of Compilation of Social History
- Edhi, Old Home and our Bari Bi
- Rememberance of the Loved Ones and Life
- Remembering East Pakistan: We look before and after, And pine for what is not
- Computer Revolution and Moore’s Law: A Personal Journey
- Companions of Hajj: Dekh mera Zauq o Shauq (Yearning and Passion)
- Pursuit of Excellence vs Guzara: How to teach excellence through everyday examples
- Of Achars, Chutneys and Halwas: A Lifestyle Getting Lost Through Branding and Mass Production
- Secret of Happiness: One Simple Rule
- How Language Acquisition is Made Difficult for Children: Eight Lessons from an Urdu Acquisition Case Study
- Of Jungles, Streams, Berries and Wild Pink Flowers: Costs of Commercialization of Islamabad
- How to find “Buzurg” and “Wali” of Allah
- How to Sprinkle Happiness Around You: Javed Bhai (Dr Zaeem Jafri) – A Jolly Good Fellow
- Ansari Sb: Khawjgan e Chisht Ahle Bahisht
- Rauf Mamoo – How to Make People Feel Special and Close
- Role Model of Forthrightness, Calm and Resourcefulness: Daud Khaloo
- Sardar Mamoo – Reliance and Tawakal on Allah
- Smoking and Childhood
- Recollection of an Unforgettable Recitation of Majaz’s Nazr-e-Aligarh
- Ethical Standards for writing Recommendation Letter: A Deputy Commissioner’s refusal in 1943
- Family Tree of Sadat e Nehtaur: A Case Study of Compilation of Social History
- Edhi, Old Home and our Bari Bi
- Rememberance of the Loved Ones and Life
- Remembering East Pakistan: We look before and after, And pine for what is not
- Computer Revolution and Moore’s Law: A Personal Journey
- Companions of Hajj: Dekh mera Zauq o Shauq (Yearning and Passion)
- Pursuit of Excellence vs Guzara: How to teach excellence through everyday examples
- Of Achars, Chutneys and Halwas: A Lifestyle Getting Lost Through Branding and Mass Production
- Secret of Happiness: One Simple Rule
- How Language Acquisition is Made Difficult for Children: Eight Lessons from an Urdu Acquisition Case Study
- Of Jungles, Streams, Berries and Wild Pink Flowers: Costs of Commercialization of Islamabad
- How to find “Buzurg” and “Wali” of Allah
- How to Sprinkle Happiness Around You: Javed Bhai (Dr Zaeem Jafri) – A Jolly Good Fellow
- Ansari Sb: Khawjgan e Chisht Ahle Bahisht
- Rauf Mamoo – How to Make People Feel Special and Close
Family – Parental Counseling
Family-Literature and Leadership
- Which Field with Great Scope Should My Child Choose: There is always a room at the top
- Recollection of an Unforgettable Recitation of Majaz’s Nazr-e-Aligarh
- Ethical Standards for writing Recommendation Letter: A Deputy Commissioner’s refusal in 1943
- Secret of Happiness: One Simple Rule
- How to find “Buzurg” and “Wali” of Allah
- Which Field with Great Scope Should My Child Choose: There is always a room at the top
- Recollection of an Unforgettable Recitation of Majaz’s Nazr-e-Aligarh
- Ethical Standards for writing Recommendation Letter: A Deputy Commissioner’s refusal in 1943
- Secret of Happiness: One Simple Rule
- How to find “Buzurg” and “Wali” of Allah
Family – History
Family – At What Cost (4)
- Rememberance of the Loved Ones and Life
- Remembering East Pakistan: We look before and after, And pine for what is not
- Of Achars, Chutneys and Halwas: A Lifestyle Getting Lost Through Branding and Mass Production
- Of Jungles, Streams, Berries and Wild Pink Flowers: Costs of Commercialization of Islamabad
- Remembering East Pakistan: We look before and after, And pine for what is not
- Rememberance of the Loved Ones and Life
- Remembering East Pakistan: We look before and after, And pine for what is not
- Of Achars, Chutneys and Halwas: A Lifestyle Getting Lost Through Branding and Mass Production
- Of Jungles, Streams, Berries and Wild Pink Flowers: Costs of Commercialization of Islamabad
- Remembering East Pakistan: We look before and after, And pine for what is not
Family – IT and Excellence
Family – Higher Education
Family – School Education
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