Metaphysics of LifeStyles – Prof Dr Irfan Hyder

Alif Laila Series of Ferozesons and my love for books

Sep 29, 2023

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مجھے سب ہے یاد زرا زرا– تمہیں یاد ہو کہ نہ یاد ہو کس کو یاد ہے ان 6 کتب کی قدر مشترک؟ ملکہ شہرزاد حجام اور قزاق چین کی شہزادی گنجا لنگور سندباد کے سات سفر معروف موچی 1970 کی دہائی میں یہ کتب میری اسلام آباد میں “ملت لائبریری” کا حصہ تھیں جن…

Tarzan and My Language Acquisition

Sep 29, 2023

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ٹارزن کے جنگ اخبار میں روز شائع ہونے والے تصویری سلسلہ سے میں نے تقریباً 5-6 سال کی عمر میں اخبار پڑھنا شروع کیا– یہ 1967-68 کا زمانہ تھا– روز صبح امی، ابا یا بڑی بہنوں سے اصرار ہوتا تھا کہ وہ پڑھ کر سنائیں، اور شروع میں دو چار دفعہ ہر ایک نے سنایا–…

Ikram Hyder Naqshbandi Naatia Kalam in Different Languages

Sep 29, 2023

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میرے دادا کے والد سید اکرام حیدر (1854 – 1942) کی غالباً 1920 کی دہائی کا لکھا ہوا نبی کریم صل اللہ علیہ وسلم کی شان میں کلام، مختلف زبانوں میں بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم بزبان عربی للہ الحمد علی راسنا ار سلت نبی من نبی اقبل احکام شرقی غربی کان امی لقد ا…

Preserving Old Handwritten Bound Manuscripts-Deewan-e-Baqa by Shah Abdul Ghafoor Manikpuri 1854-1930

Apr 29, 2023

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This post describes how I am preserving the old handwritten poetic manuscripts written around 1880-1930. They had come to me in a bound volume as seen in the picture below. The binding was labeled Deewan-e-Baqa. Baqa being the poetic name, takhalus, of Shah Abdul Ghafoor Manikpuri. Baqa is used in several ghazal and poems in…

Rauf Momani and Great Memories of a Lively Lady

Apr 18, 2023

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Rauf Momani and Great Memories of a Lively Lady On 12th of April, 2023, Mrs Parveen Rauf Momani, my mother’s brother’s wife left this world to meet her creator. Inna lillah e wa inna ilaihi rajioon. May Allah give her the best of abodes in the hereafter. Aameen. Rauf Mamoo and Rauf Momani (1960) Rauf…

How families Used to Spend Eid Days

Apr 18, 2023

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How Eid Days were spent: جب ہم 1980 میں کراچی آئے تو عرفان بھائی کے ساتھ موٹر سائکل پر میں عید بقر عید سب سے ملنے جاتے- ابا جان امی ہم کو خاسص تاکید کے ساتھ بھیجتے- عرفان بھائی اپنے دوست سے موٹر سائکل ایک دن کے لئے لاتے- چلانا بھی نیا سیکھا تھا ہم…

Discovery and Rememberances of a 1951 Journey via Ship from Karachi to London onwards to Brazil

Apr 18, 2023

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1991-11-09. This photo is just the start of the journey to Brazil whose vivid description and experiences are captured in the following letter by Good Beti to Nice Beti Good Khala face visible from the peep hole of the ship. She was leaving with her husband and family for Brazil; via Ship first to London…

Fun of Aurengzeb’s Piety and Inferiority Complex

Mar 14, 2023

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“اورنگ زیب نے کوئی نماز اور کوئی بھائی نہیں چھوڑا” یوسفی صاحب مزاح نگار تھے، کوئی تاریخ دان نہیں تھے- ان کے اِس “مزاح” کو پڑھے لکھے عقلمند اپنی “تاریخ دانی” کی معراج سمجھتے ہیں اور اپنی غلامانہ زہنیت اور احساس کمتری کا شکار ہونے کا اظہار کرتے ہیں! اُس زمانے میں دنیا کے کسی…

Experience with Google Drive and Dropbox. Why you should junk all of them

Aug 9, 2022

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I had several terabytes of data in several external drives, now. This data relates to my research, my research papers, research data, students’ reports and data, their thesis and other proposals, analysis, and surveys that I have conducted during my consultancy assignments and other assignments. These contain my personal insights and conclusions about various issues.…

Behind frigidity there once was a clingy child? When a Child Becomes an Adult

Jul 30, 2022

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The child has now grown up, isn’t it? The grown-up is now Aaqil and Baligh, and responsible for his/her behaviors. An adult must be accountable for his/her actions. Stop blaming your parents or environment for your actions. This Freudian psychology thought is against Islamic teachings. Freud does not believe in human will or predestination. Some…

Quest for Truth: Need for External vs Internal Persuasion

Jul 30, 2022

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A post on FB quoting Joseph Royce: “If you cannot convince me that there is some kind of knowable ultimate reality, or if you cannot convince me that there are certain absolute values by which I can live my life, I shall commit psychological suicide. That is, either convince me that there is “one truth”…

Naatia Kalam and Family Culture of Recitations- Anwar Fatima Diary

Jul 28, 2022

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My dadi Anwar Fatima’s diary/copy that she used from 1930s till 1960s. It contains naatiya kalam that used to be recited in mehfil e milad. Besides that it also contains poetic verses of several other relatives. Such “Mehafil” gave elders and children an appreciation of poetry and also a love for poetry. I remember being…

Sustainability vs Digital Transformation or Digital Disruption or Digital Slavery: Growth of Digital Disempowerment

Apr 23, 2022

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Digital transformation and sustainability challenges: Internet and convergence of technologies have created a digital takeover of all aspects of life to an extent that digital intrusion is now monitoring our most intimate details, which has produced a digital monopoly of nearly all services and has recently created the ultimate buzzword “digital disruption” which is actually…

Why this epidemic of depression and psychosis – Death of Permanence

Apr 23, 2022

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Why there is such a widespread epidemic of depression and psychosis in the world? Too much change, happening too fast and robbing us of the familiar anchors in life; anchors in beliefs, anchors in thoughts, anchors in our habits, anchors in families, anchors in “Old Familiar Faces”, anchors in furniture and household items, anchors in…

Why School Priorities Have Changed

Feb 22, 2022

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How short-term observations can lead to faulty solutions? What was important 50 years ago is not important today. See the following post What was important 50 years ago is not important today. 50 years ago depression was not among the top 10 or even top 20 illnesses leading to death, today it is number one…

Is Marriage an Imprisonment? Feminism, Relationships and Freedom from Responsibilities

Aug 31, 2021

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کیا شادی قید بامشقت ہے؟ This post is triggered by FB posts which mentioned marriage as imprisonment with hard labor: “قید بامشقت” This post captures the intent of feminist and modern thought which is now focused so much on freedom that it considers “responsibilities” as imprisonment (قید). To reveal the essence of this thought, we…

Phuppi Tufail Fatima Care for Family and Parents

Aug 24, 2021

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My phuppi Tufail Fatima breathed her last yesterday August 23, 2021. She was 103 years of age. Her birth-year (called ism-tareekh اسم تاریخ) is 1918 as given in the manuscript penned by her grandfather (my grandfather’s father) Syed Ikram Hyder. Her Tareekhi Names derived from the birth year were Ghani Behr e Rehmat (غنی بحر رحمت),…

Self awareness and layers of intentions

Jul 18, 2021

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Self-awareness is the process of discovering deeper levels of intentions. Whenever we are disturbed and feel an urge to respond or act on a stimulus we need to introspect about what is it that has disturbed me and is giving me this urge to respond. Our response should be based on حسن ظن and not…

Elegance, Love and Principles in Roman Holiday

Jul 15, 2021

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One of the most memorable endings of a movie. I have thought a lot about the emotions and feelings generated by this movie since my early school days. First saw this movie in 1971-72 on PTV. Then in 1983-84 on projector at American Center audi (adjacent to Marriott) during classic films festival. Then in 1988…

Happiness and Forgive and Forget Rule

Jul 15, 2021

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Forgive and forget rule for happiness! The question to ask is whether you want to be happy or not! اے شمع تیری عمر طبیعی ہے ایک رات ہنس کر گزار یا اسے رو کر گزار دے Holding a grudge and protecting it is like carrying stale foul smelling tomatoes for long periods and not…

How Legacy is Transmitted over Generations: Case Study of Ikram Hyder

May 16, 2021

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During lock down I was organizing the old stuff left by my father. In that I found some papers in old dilapidated state, crumpled. On closer inspection I found them belonging to my grandfather’s father. Till this time I had only seen a Pic of my grand father’s father in a Pic of my father’s…

Gates, Musk et al Divorce Settlements and Marriage Institution

May 8, 2021

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Taking on Challenging Responsibilities vs Trying to be a Superwoman

May 7, 2021

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What is the problem with the following advice:“Don’t get too proud, she said, of your capabilities at handling anything — or soon people will expect you to handle everything. The world is always eager to find someone who can handle everything (because the world is lazy, and doesn’t want to do the work) and soon…

Power of Psychological Assumptions in Matchmaking Processes

May 5, 2021

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Power of assumption?Match-making processes would be markedly different for society that assumes “you are mentally ill unless proven healthy” vs the society that assumes “you are healthy unless proven mentally ill”.This is similar to the power of assumption in law:“You are innocent unless proven guilty” vs “you are guilty unless proven innocent” through due process.…

Hill Park Karachi over the Years and Social Networks of Old Familiar Faces

May 3, 2021

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ھل پارک 1975, PECHS, Karachi I went regularly in the mornings during 1995-2012 when my children were growing up. Feeding the ducks and climbing up and down the hilly slopes was the nearest to tracking/hiking children could get in Karachi. I also frequented it during 1980-86 during my engineering and MBA days, and even used…

Branding, Consumerism and Islamic Principles of Trade

May 2, 2021

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مغربی کیپٹلزم کی اشتراکیت کو ضم کرنے کے بعد اس سے بڑی کیا کامیابی ہو گی کہ اس دو سو سال سے لڑنے والے مزہبی پیشوا خود کیپٹلسٹ کنزیومرزم کے سب سے بڑے داعی بن جائیں- تاریخ میں کیپٹلزم سے لڑنے والے اب تک کے تمام نظام فکر لڑتے لڑتے خود کیپٹلزم میں ضم ہو…

Sam Walton, ‏Ghazali’s Ihsaan in ‎معاملات ‏ ‏and High-end Expensive Brands

May 2, 2021

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There are several types of price setting strategies such as Cost Plus and Demand Driven Pricing. Walmart’s success was built on cost plus pricing model. Sam Walton was the founder of the retailing giant of 1990s-2000s. In his autobiography “Made in America” published a few months around his death in 1992, he mentions the example…

First Makeup Experience: Impact of Childhood Experiences across Time and Space

Apr 16, 2021

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Vividness of childhood experiences and the distance it travels across time and space. As I am going through the letters, papers and other documents of my parents dating back to the days before their marriage (1940s, they married in 1951), I come across the clues to their personality that I observed during 1966-2003, time of…

My First Brush with Philosophy: A Tribute to Sir Nafees Siddiqui of ICB/IMS

Mar 27, 2021

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I remember Sir Nafees Siddiqui who used to teach English at ICB/IMSB, G6/3,Islamabad. He didn’t teach our class but we had the opportunity to be taught for a couple of class sessions when he came in to fill in for the absence of our regular teacher. Sir Nafees Siddiqui gave us our first introduction to…

Social Media and Medium is the message

Mar 18, 2021

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ٹیکنالوجی نے اب اتنی زیادہ ترقی کر لی ہے کہ عام عوام نے کتابیں “پڑھنے لکھنے” کی صلاحیتیں چھوڑ کر 1435 کی گٹنبرگ پرنٹنگ پریس کی ایجاد سے قبل کے زمانے کی عوام کی طرح صرف “دیکھنے سننے” کی صلاحیتوں تک محدود کر دیا ہے! انسٹاگرام ٹک ٹاک جنریشن کو مبارکباد FB is not a…

Shajra Taxonomy of Sufi Tassauf Terminology

Jan 27, 2021

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شجرہ معرفت الہی و حقیقت روح و صراحت عالمہائے ظاہری و باطنی و طریقہائے تصوف متعلق نور ایمان سید اکرام حیدر ترمذی نقشبندی کے کاغذات کا کلیکشن. سنہ 1880-1890 1. اللہ تعالٰی ازلی و ابدی، قیود زمان و مکاں سے مبرا 1.1 خدا خود آیندہ، موجود بالذات 1.2 واجب الوجود، واجب بالذات 2. قدرت کاملہ…

Elegy on the Killing of PM Liaquat Ali Khan by Shah Abdul Shakoor Faridi

Jan 2, 2021

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مرثیہ ترجیح بند در شہادت لیاقت علیخان بر بند سعدی علیہ الرحمہ از شاہ عبد الشکور فریدی، مانک پور یہ مرثیہ ایک ١٩٥١ کےخط میں ملا جو کہ شاہ عبد الشکور ساکن مانک پور کا بھیجا ہوا تھا- شاہ عبد الشکور فریدی میری والدہ کے نانا تھے- بڑے بزرگ تھے- ان کے منظوم ملفوظات میرے…

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